Miserable and guilty

Posted By on Jan 28, 2010 | 8 comments

If any of you spotted a girl crying in the traffic this afternoon*, that was me! 🙁

It all started this afternoon when I got a phone call from a mutual friend of mine and my sister. She called to ask me why my sis was organising her own baby shower (among other things). I had said that she was organising it because she had wanted to**.

My sister called just before i was leaving the office to tell me that she’d finalised her baby shower date – Saturday 27 February. I immediately became emotional because I realised that that is the day I’m supposed to leave for the Drakensberg for a week long conference. I burst into tears when I realised I may not be able to be the doting aunt-to-be and celebrate with her. I then brought up the other phone call earlier and my sis had said that the only reason she was organising it herself was because no-one had taken it upon themselves to organise something. Cue more water-works!

Once I’d calmed down a little after the call, I went to speak to my MD about that weekend. I asked if there was any way that I could drive down on the Saturday afternoon with Gary, with him staying the night and leaving the next day, or coming through on Sunday morning. Luckily he told me he’d keep it in mind and that he was sure we could organise something so I wouldn’t be a pile of tears if I wasn’t with my sis.

So yes I will most probably be able to attend, but I still feel awful and guilty! I have been so focussed on wedding-related things that I hadn’t even cast a though to my sister’s shower! She shouldn’t plan it herself! I feel like I am such a bad and inconsiderate sister, and like I’ve let her down… What makes things worse in my mind is that there isn’t a lot of spare cash to allow me to go all out and organise this for her! Feels like I’m in a Catch 22 and I don’t know what to do.

Any suggestions on how I can make this the best baby shower she could wish for, on a budget?

Hugs & Kisses
Jessica Giggles

*My guilt and emotions wore down on me terribly that I cried the whole way home. This was not helped by the fact that the radio station was playing very mopey, sad, songs.
**My sis had said that she wanted a joint baby shower where the guys and gals celebrated the baby together instead of the usual “girls only” shower. So we had brainstormed ideas together but I had left it at that…

P.S. Thanks to all my Twitter ladies for your hugs and support, you know who you are!

*Picture credit


  1. sorry you are feeling so bad, glad you boss managed to sort out that you could go to the baby shower. Family relations and things like this are never easy

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    • Because my sister and I are so close, not being able to celebrate these things with her makes it THAT much harder for me. I’m just hoping that I am able to plan something around the date and time…

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  2. I’m also organizing my own shower – also a co-ed affair; I’ve had 3 women-only showers and I really don’t feel like swapping birth horror stories again!
    IMHO it’s really not the end of the world to arrange your own baby shower – at least you get to make it what you really want!
    And, honestly, who wouldn’t get all caught up in their wedding arrangements?
    I’m glad you’re feeling a bit better – hope you and your sister both have a great time at the baby shower!

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    • Thanks for your support! I’m sure a lot of fun will be had when the day arrives. 🙂

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  3. Its dreadful when you realise its almost too late to do something you wanted to do for someone else!


    So is she doing the joint thing?

    Baby shower cupcakes! ~giggle~
    Get everyone to wear a bib on the day, and after the party they go to the mommy-to-be.
    Get everyone to wear either pink or blue, depending on the baby’s sex.
    Get baby shower games here: http://www.101babyshowerideas.com/bsgames.htm

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    • Thanks for all the ideas! Will definitely give that website a look when I have a chance! 🙂

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  4. I was wondering why you were so upset ((HUGS))
    You don’t need a packet full of money to throw a babyshower. Just get everyone that’s coming to bring a plate of food with them, and their own drinks. Seriously, it’s not a problem, most babyshowers I’ve been to have involved me bringing food too.

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  5. i agree with jenty. get everyone to pitch in. or book it at a posh tea place and get every one to pay for themselves and a bit extra for your sis. That’s what I did for my sister’s shower and everyone was cool with that.

    anywa, hope it all works out and that you’re feeling better today.

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